Relationships are never static. Our partners can bring out both the best and the worst in us, and there is always the potential to learn and grow together.
Perhaps you find yourselves arguing more often, disagreeing about parenting issues, or having arguments that keep going round in circles.
Maybe you are struggling to agree on some big life decisions, such as marriage, starting a family, moving house… or would just like to feel closer and understand each other better.
Talking to an impartial third person can help to resolve your differences, and open channels to better communication.
Maybe you’re Finding…
- Constant fighting or bickering
- Burying your feelings
- Feeling ignored or misunderstood
- Becoming distant, moving apart
- Difficulties in communication
- Conflict over children and parenting styles
- Trust and commitment
- Financial disagreements
- Circling around the same issues
- Feeling left out, partner prioritises the children.
You Don’t Have to Wait Until Things Feel Broken
Change may happen gradually, often as a result of life changes, such as becoming parents, moving house, children leaving home, starting school…suddenly you find you are out of touch with each other.
There’s no need to wait until things are really falling apart. Addressing your concerns before they reach this point mean they can be resolved much more easily.
Parenting and close relationships often bring our own early experiences to the surface. Sometimes we find ourselves reacting in ways we don’t fully understand.
A certain level of conflict in a relationship is quite normal.
The trick is learning how to deal with it safely and without hurt. Supportive intimate relationships can be a place of healing and personal growth for you both.
With understanding and support, old patterns don’t have to keep repeating themselves. Counselling can help you recognise those patterns and begin creating new ways of relating to each other, learning and growing within your relationship.
Couples counselling isn’t about deciding who’s right or wrong. It’s about understanding each other’s experience more deeply, improving communication, and learning how to see things from another person’s perspective.
The aim is closer relationships based on understanding and connection.
Benefits of Couples Counselling
- Improved communication
- Deeper friendship and intimacy
- Learning new skills to deal with conflict and improve communication
- Releasing past hurts
- Feeling safe to voice your feelings
- Learning how to express your own needs and listen to your partner’s needs
- Growing through resolving areas of conflict
- Greater awareness, creating a more fulfilling and supportive relationship
- Removing blockages to a closer emotional connection,
My role isn’t to tell you who’s right or what you should do. Instead, I offer a calm, supportive space where you can both feel heard, understood and supported as you work towards deepening the relationship you would like to create together.
It’s never too early or too late to work on your relationship.
Your First Session
Counselling usually starts with us getting to know each other. I’ll ask questions about your relationship, how you met, how long you’ve been together and any particular areas of conflict.
We can discuss your goals for therapy, and any specific areas that you would like to work on.
Subsequent Sessions
Subsequent sessions provide an opportunity to gradually work through your current concerns, and any long-standing issues.
You will be learning new skills of communication, developing a secure attachment based on understanding and connection.
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