It’s not always easy to share the intense feelings you experience after a loss during pregnancy.
The depth of sadness resulting from miscarriage or infant loss can be profound, and can at times feel overwhelming. There is not such thing as “just a misscarriage“, as anyone who has had this experience knows only too well.
Infant loss is painful. Our dreams are shattered as we are suddenly taken from immense joy and optimism to a place of deep sadness. There is a pain in your heart that seems impossible to heal.
Sometimes, we don’t even know how to allow ourselves to grieve.
I know, I’ve been there, and remember those feelings of immense loss.
It’s OK to allow yourself to grieve
Perhaps well-meaning friends and family have tried to help suggesting that perhaps “it was all for the best” or “we’ll forget about that and try again”. When loved ones try to help by wanting to make the pain go away, it can actually have the reverse effect, of invalidating the feelings of grief, and delay the healing process.
Successive miscarriages can be even more difficult to accept, when the grief of the loss may feel just too hard to bear, and is often accompanied by feelings of despair, shame and worthlessness.
It’s not just the prospective parents who are hurting. Everyone connected to the pregnancy can experience a sense of loss – whether you were a prospective mum, dad, grandparent, close friend or a member of the extended family.
I offer a gentle and accepting space where you can feel safe to process those deep feelings, integrating the experience and moving forward when you are ready. Simply talking to a compassionate and empathic listener where you can feel seen, heard and understood can be healing.
If you, or someone close to you has experienced the deep grief of a loss during pregnancy, I would love to help.
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