When our son was born in 1985 I quickly realised I knew very little about parenting.
Life gave me plenty of time to think about this and how I might do things differently second time around, before our daughter arrived 11 years later. The learning started all over again when I realised that each child is a unique individual. Children don’t come with rule books.
Starting school was an anxious time for her, and she would cling to me on arrival. Then, when I picked her up in the afternoon, she would often kick the back of my seat, angrily yelling at me.
I was Completely at a Loss
I had no idea why she was doing this, or what to do about it. For some reason, I decided I needed to read education philosophy. Coming across Steiner Education, I enrolled to train as a practitioner in The Extra Lesson program. This program supports children who are struggling with behavioural and classroom learning.
As a seven year old, my daughter started asking to be home schooled. We changed classes, then changed schools, and finally embarked on our home schooling journey two years later. This was the beginning of three wonderful years. My only regret is that we hadn’t started sooner.
Extra Lesson Training
During this time, I trained as an Extra Lesson practitioner, and we both went through the program. Along the way, I realised that, although I had always achieved well at school, I had learning difficulties. It was confronting to realise that learning didn’t have to be that hard.
In 2005 I began offering the program to families in my local area, and saw many amazing transformations. I also researched the importance of early movements as the foundation for lifelong learning as part of my Master of Education (CSU, 2012). This supported my belief that delays in early development affected learning, not only in the classroom, but also physical, behavioural and emotional learning.
Training as a Counsellor
I began to feel that I would like to be able to offer more support to the parents, and began training with the Metavision Institute in 2014, graduating as an accredited Holistic Counsellor and Psychotherapist in 2017.
During this time I researched links between experiences of stress and overwhelm during infancy and early childhood, learning difficulties, developmental delay and challenging behaviours. I found the links to be very strong, and well researched. I delivered a paper based on my research at the Australian Childhood Foundation Conference in Melbourne in 2018.
Circle of Security Parenting
Growing from my desire to offer parenting support, I have been offering the Circle of Security Parenting program to parents in my area for several years. Feedback has been very positive. Parents have commented on the positive changes they were seeing in their children’s behaviours as they adapted their parenting styles.
Circle of Security Parenting is a relationship-based early-intervention program. It is designed to help you to understand how your children might be feeling, and what you can do to help them. During the 1:1 sessions, I often find parents are able to work through some of their own childhood issues. Benefits flow not only to their children, but also other relationships.
Child Behaviour Consultancy
Practising as a Child Behaviour Consultant allows me to combine Holistic Counselling and Psychotherapy with my background in child development. This gives me a unique perspective in offering support to parents.
I would love to hear from anyone who, is confused, as I was, and looking for answers. I will not tell you what to do or offer advice. Rather, I see my role as walking alongside you, supporting you on your own journey of discovery.
You are not alone, and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
If you feel you are struggling, and would like some help, please email, or call me on 0474 095 432 for a free 15 minute chat.