It’s normal for parents to worry when their child seems to be falling behind at school, particularly with reading, writing and spelling.
Often asking the question “should I get my child assessed?”
What is Dyslexia?
Children described as being dyslexic therefore have normal intelligence, but for a number of reasons, struggle with learning to read in a standard classroom.
Will a diagnosis help?
The short answer is “maybe”.
What are the pros and cons of a diagnosis?
Put simply, a diagnosis is a collection of symptoms that fall into a particular category. This can be used to help your child to receive specialised support.
However, this may not be your only option.
You might like to weigh up your options before having your child’s learning difficulties diagnosed
Pros and cons of a dyslexia diagnosis Dyslexia – Is a Diagnosis the Whole Story?
Can a diagnosis really benefit your child?
A diagnosis can be helpful for some families, but it doesn’t have to be your only option.
You may prefer a more holistic approach, focussing on understanding and supporting the bigger picture of your child as individual.
Advantages
A diagnosis of Dyslexia:
- Can offer peace of mind for parents.
- Can help with understanding by putting a label on your child’s learning difficulties.
- Your child may receive some individual classroom support and the school may receive funding for this.
- Parents often choose more intense tutoring outside of school
- May not address the underlying cause of your child’s struggle
However, having a diagnosis may block pathways to further understanding.
Disadvantages
Diagnoses aren’t always helpful, and can carry negative impacts.
- There is a risk of damage to self esteem, with your child taking on a belief that there is something wrong with them.
- A child with Dyslexia may see this diagnosis as a part of them, part of their personality, losing sight of their gifts and positive attributes.
- A diagnosis can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Wth a focus on the symptoms of the initial diagnosis, behaviours can develop to match the label, fitting into their allocated “box”.
- Their view of the world, their beliefs and expectations may develop in accordance with that particular “label”.
- Applying a diagnosis can create a barrier between a person and their experience, as though the experience is not part of them. It belongs to the diagnosis.
- Once a child has a diagnosis, they can carry it with them throughout life.
Your Child is a Unique and Gifted Individual
The many fine qualities that your child brings to the world can become obscured by a diagnosis. Removing the label, it’s easier to see your child for the unique and gifted individual that they really are.
It’s easy to get caught up in their struggles, and we miss seeing their gifts.
An holistic approach to addressing dyslexia sees your child’s struggles as part of a bigger picture. Your child is part of a family story, community, environment and life in today’s world.
More than Just Reading
I suggest an alternative view, based on addressing the root cause, looking for what lies beneath the behaviour.
My experience – last 20 years as a development Practitioner – Dyslexia doesn’t stand on its own – symptoms of dyslexia are usually linked to other aspects of learning, including:
- maths
- spelling
- written expression
- memory
- handwriting
- social skills
- physical coordination
- emotional development
- anxiety
What is their behaviour trying to tell us?
Could they be saying:
“I don’t feel safe enough to learn? ” or
“When I feel safe, I can sit still, focus and concentrate better”.
Child Development
Research shows that symptoms of dyslexia are often linked to foundations of early sensory and motor development
The first step in healing to help your child to feel safe in the world. We can’t learn when we are feeling unsafe, pressured or threatened.
Child development is a bit like a tower of Jenga blocks – if the blocks at the base are not firm, the rest of the tower will become unsteady.
Your child’s early development is a bit like this. Strong foundations build in infancy and early childhood will support your child’s learning in the classroom. At the base is helping your child to feel safe and nurtured.
Before training as a counsellor and psychotherapist, I worked as a development practitioner for many years. During this time, I experienced many changes in the children I worked with – with and without a diagnosis.
The good news is that it is not always necessary to have a diagnosis to seek help. It is never too late to reach out.
If you’re worried, you’re welcome to give me a call. Often just talking to someone who understands, and has been through similar experiences, can help.
You are not alone.
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