Anxiety

Do you ever have the feeling that you just want to hide, your palms get sweaty, your stomach churns, your breathing comes in shallow gasps,  your thoughts are racing, and you have trouble concentrating? 

Perhaps you are feeling the need to constantly stay on alert, your movements feel a bit awkward and uncoordinated and you struggle to find the words to express yourself?

For some of us this can happen regularly, without warning, and we have no idea where these feelings have come from.

These behaviours can all be signs of anxiety. 

Signals from your Nervous System

These sensations can be seen as signals coming from your nervous system, and are your body’s attempt to bring something to your awareness.

In recent times, I have learnt that the best way to address my own anxious feelings is to acknowledge them, and focus on bringing my awareness back into my body. I have found that trying to ignore these disturbing sensations doesn’t make them go away. In fact, it seems to make them stronger, as they fight for recognition and integration. 

Like me, you may have developed addictive habits to use as distractions, such as eating, shopping, talking, texting… These can all be attempts at running away from an uncomfortable feeling that is lurking just below your conscious awareness. There is no shame in acknowledging these sensations, and your counsellor can help you to work through them.

When I notice myself using these distractive behaviours (in my case, mindless eating), I remind myself to start with regulating my breathing, focussing on a deep, slow rhythmic pattern. The next step is to try and notice where in my body I might be experiencing these sensations, noticing any thoughts and feelings that might be associated with these sensations. 

Mindfully focussing on my body’s sensations helps me to make sense of the messages my body might be trying to bring to my attention, and I have been able to gradually build new patterns of behaviour, learning to respond, rather than react, to a given situation.

It is a good idea to ask your counsellor to help you with this process , if it is new to you.

Calming your Breathing 

When you feel anxious, your breathing tends to be shallow, short and sharp, and is confined to the upper part of the chest. You can feel this by placing a hand over your chest. You might be aware of a tightness here,  as though you can’t take in enough air.

Learning to belly-breathe is one way of bringing awareness back into your body, relieving that feeling of wanting to shutdown and hide, or perhaps react in anger. 

Start by sitting down, which will make it easier to focus on your breathing.

Place your right hand over your chest, and your left hand over your stomach, and exhale.

Inhale through your nose, and focus on bringing your breath down into your body. You should feel your left hand gently rise (sometimes it helps to imagine a ballon under your left hand, which you will gently inflate). As you breathe out, be aware of your left hand moving gently as your stomach contracts.

Continue to modulate your breathing in this way for three or four breaths, gently allowing that imaginary balloon to inflate, then empty.

Your counsellor can guide you through their process if it is new to you.

Note: if this makes you feel more uncomfortable, then please stop.

Increasing Awareness

As your nervous system starts to regulate, and the flow of energy through your body improves, you may notice that:

  • Your thinking becomes more rational 
  • Your senses become more open to taking in information from the world around you
  • Your movements become more comfortable and coordinated.

It’s OK to ask for Help

A certain level of anxiety is normal, but if you find you are struggling with feelings of overwhelm, to the extent that they are affecting your day to day living, and are causing concern to you and/or those around you, then it’s important to ask for help.

Healing happens in relationship, so contacting your counsellor or psychotherapist is a good place to start. Together you will be able to explore issues that could be triggering your anxiety, addressing them in a safe and supportive environment.

Through doing this inner work, it’s not unusual to come into contact with a little child who is hurting, feeling sad, and needs comfort, yearning for connection and understanding. By holding her gently, letting her know she is worthy of being loved, the anxious feelings may subside, as you grow in understanding and awareness.

If you are concerned contact Beyond Blue link or phone them on 1300 22 4636

Years of Experience

Rosalind is a PACFA accredited Holistic Counsellor and Psychotherapist and long-term resident of Moruya, on the south coast of New South Wales. An empathic and compassionate listener she will respect your need for safety, trust and confidentiality in the therapeutic relationship.

Rosalind brings to therapy the depth of understanding that comes from lived experience.